Today is Saturday and I attend a weekly AlAnon meeting. The discussion centered around the experiences of mothers who must balance "control/responsibility" Some have young adult children who are suffering from addictions and the "Let Go, Let God" of AlAnon serves them well.
A woman has an adult son who is just out of jail.
She read her journal and he is doing what he did 5 years ago.
Only today did she realize that her behavior had not changed at all in the past 5 years. She was happy to be in AlAnon and "it's all about me. Cause that is who's behavior I am responsible for and can control." She encouraged each of us to keep a journal.
One of the women said, "When you interfere in the consequences of the alcoholic's actions, you prolong the path he/she is on." Or some call this behavior "enabler." AlAnon teaches, "I didn't cause it, I can't cure it, I can't control it but I can contribute to it."
I find that being in AlAnon is like doing the daily Examen of the Jesuits. What did I do wrong today? What can I change in it? What did I do right? Just like the AA program it is "Just for today." Or as Tolle's book suggests, "Live in the Now" as that is all we have. Take action for the immediate situation; the past is over, the future is unknown.
We are not called to live the life of Jesus, we are called to live our own unique life and to find our path and to contribute who we are to the world. Jesus is our model of reaching for the reign of God but we are not Jesus, I am Katy a grandmother and RCWP. I must live the life God planned for me! One of growth in who I am and loving compassion in the world.
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